There are a number of international students studying in DCU. They are coming from many different parts of the world, such as Europe, America and Asia. For some of them, studying at DCU can be a really challenging adventure. That is because, for example, coming from a small Asian island country to Europe is a life-changing experience. For me, it took over 15 hours to travel. So one can say, Ireland is “far, far away”, at least it has been.
Not only the distance, but also the language, culture, and everything is totally different. The difference can surprise us or interest us, but sometimes it can fear us, irritate us and cause conflict. In order to get along with people from different countries, we have to know each other and embrace the difference. But in what way do cultural differences appear as “culture shock” and how do you deal with them? I would like to demonstrate it with the help of my experience and my feeling of homesickness.
It is said that ‘culture shock’ (homesickness) has four stages, and indeed these four stages occurred at least in part during my stay in Ireland.
The first one I have realized is the honeymoon stage in which people enjoy everything in their new surroundings. When I came to Ireland, my first impression was that it is a completely different country compared to my country, Japan. Of course, that is obvious because I came to Europe from Asia, but I strongly remember that I felt like everything is new, different, and interesting for me here. So, I enjoyed the first two or three weeks since I came here because every day was filled with interesting findings. However, after that period I started to feel homesick.
It led to the so-called frustration stage, in which people feel frustrated to not being able to have a conversation smoothly, having different cultural norms from their own culture, or other small things in everyday life. I actually felt that kind of frustration many times. For example, when I took a bus in September, I told the name of stop where I was going to get off to the driver. Unfortunately he did not understand what I was saying, so I repeated it several times. Finally, he understood me, but it triggered me to feel that my English is quite bad and it is not improving at all. Hence after that, I had lost my confidence in my language ability and I have got a little bit afraid of talking to native English speakers. However, a lot of people surrounding me taught me that we can learn something through making mistakes. It helped me a lot to adapt to my new environment without fearing to make mistakes.
The third stage I had to face has been the adjustment stage where people try to get familiar with the culture and make efforts. I think that I had the biggest personal growth during this phase. That is because I really enjoyed adjusting myself. I started to ask questions about “how local people do it?” and tried to mimic it. For example, I learned that when getting on the bus, many Irish people tell the amount of fare, instead of the name of the stop. Before starting doing this, I had been in trouble a few times as the actual name of the stop was sometimes different from the one I said or the one google maps showed me. But adapting has helped me getting on a bus without any problem.
The last stage, which I am currently confronted with is the acceptance stage where people understand the core part of the culture and literally accept the difference. This is the most important one because their barriers among cultures disappear since people know that they are all different. Therefore, people would never feel frustrated by the differences in language, custom or culture. Having reached this stage, one can say that the culture shock has been overcome. I personally have not yet been able to overcome this stage, but I hope to do so soon.
Culture shock looks at a negative incident in our lives, but after getting over it, it will be a great experience for everyone. It might be quite scary to take a step out of your comfortable space, but exploring a larger world and the unknown definitely benefits an individual. Knowing many other cultures and accepting the difference literally diversifies your world. By doing so, you can get a much more broadened perspective and it could be the most valuable thing you can get from your study abroad experience. Hence, one thing you should do first is trying to get used to the “strange” things in this new environment, instead of looking at it from ‘far far away’!
Yuki Yanagida